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New Year – New Start. 

I feel like my divorce proceedings are going from bad to worse. I don’t want to start the New Year this way. What can I do?


It’s never too late to change the direction that your divorce proceedings are taking. If you feel that tension is escalating and you’re not progressing, it might be a good time to take a different approach. Collaborative law or mediation may be an approach that could work better for you. Collaborative law involves your lawyers working together and with each of you by way of strong communication.

Collaborative law favours meetings over correspondence to keep matters as constructive as possible. Mediation also promotes open communication. By involving a third person to help you to discuss options and concerns with each other to reach solutions together. This can even be effective if matters are already within a Court timetable. Sometimes the introduction of a third neutral person to the dynamic such as an independent financial advisor or a family consultant/therapist can also help matters progress positively. Other options involve a barrister providing an early neutral evaluation or an arbitrator making a definitive decision on matters where you may be stuck or can’t find agreement. These options can ultimately save you time, angst and money. 

Flexible Options


There are many flexible options to divorce proceedings and they may provide a welcome alternative for you. It is important for you to explore them and to make sure you’re following the best route for your own set of circumstances. You may find a more suitable alternative and it’s never too late to make a new start.

For further information regarding family matters and collaborative law, please contact a member of the Family team.

Cath Porter

Cath Porter

Partner and Head of Family Law